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Let’s be real….. when your parent starts talking about a lawsuit, it can feel like they are dragging you into something huge that you didn’t ask for. You might be thinking, why are they making this even more complicated? But here’s the truth: they’re not trying to make things harder. They know something happened that wasn’t okay. And for a lot of parents when someone has hurt their kid, doing nothing isn’t an option.
If something went down on Roblox that made you feel uncomfortable, confused, scared, or ashamed: it wasn’t your fault. What happened to you wasn’t just “weird,” “cringe,” or “something that just happens.” It was abuse, and it’s totally okay if you didn’t realize it at the time.
How Do I Know If What Happened to Me on Roblox Was Abuse?
Honestly, recognizing inappropriate behavior can be tough, especially on a platform like Roblox. In the beginning, you might not even notice you’re being groomed. It often starts with someone making you feel special and understood.
It may look like:
- Giving you lots of compliments, attention, or gifts. This can look like: “Your avatar is so pretty. No one else looks that cool.” or “I’ll give you Robux if you do XYZ.”
- Slowly introducing flirting, sexual talk, or asking for photos. This can look like: “Send me a pic. Just kidding…unless you’re into that.”
- Moving conversations off platform to places like Discord. This can look like: “This is way more fun and private. Only cool people are allowed.” or “Add me on Discord, we can talk more there.”
- Telling you that you’re mature for your age. This can look like: “You’re mature for your age. Most kids annoy me, but you’re different.”
Groomers are manipulative by design. They act like your friend, or even someone who understands you. That’s how they build trust. So, when they act inappropriately, it can be confusing. You might feel flattered, nervous, special, or scared all at the same time.
One survivor, Lennon Torres, described their story of online grooming and how easy it is to get pulled in. First, it starts with normal curiosity and just wanting to connect. But the grooming happens gradually, with predators using compliments, manipulation, and threats to gain control. Even when it felt wrong, the fear and pressure made it extremely hard for them to walk away.
Is It Normal to Not Want to Talk About It? Absolutely!
We get why you don’t want to talk about this. It can be confusing and overwhelming.
You might be thinking:
- What if nobody believes me?
- What if they blame me?
- What if I get in trouble?
- What if people see me differently?
Or even:
- It wasn’t that bad.
- I should have done something to stop it.
- Was what happened really “wrong?”
These feelings are perfectly normal after something confusing or violating happens. Grooming is designed to mess with your head, so it makes sense to feel confused. That doesn’t mean something is wrong with you; it means someone tried to control you, and you’re just trying to make sense of something that’s really tough for anyone to understand– even adults struggle with this.
Just know that whatever happened, you didn’t deserve it. It’s not your fault. And you don’t have to carry it alone anymore.
Is It My Fault What Happened?
No, it’s definitely not your fault. This is a normal reaction to being groomed. So, let’s break down the feelings of shame and guilt. People often mix up shame and guilt, but they’re very different.
Guilt is: “I did something bad.”
Shame is: “I am bad.”
Guilt comes from actions you know were wrong, like hurting someone or breaking a promise. But you didn’t choose to be groomed and assaulted. You didn’t do anything wrong at all. That’s why, when we talk about sexual assault, guilt doesn’t apply here.
You were a victim of someone else’s choice.
There’s nothing to feel guilty about.
You might be feeling shame, which can really feel heavy, making it hard to talk about what happened. That’s totally normal for survivors. Your brain is just trying to figure things out. But the shame isn’t yours to carry–it belongs to the person who hurt you.
Will Everyone Find Out About What Happened to Me?
It takes a lot of courage to share your story, and you’re not alone. If you decide to take legal action, we know it might feel scary, but that doesn’t mean the whole world will know what happened to you. It doesn’t work that way! Talking to us is confidential, and you can learn about the process without any commitment. You get to decide what you share and the pace you want to go at. We work with you every step of the way. Thinking of taking legal action and telling your story doesn’t take away your voice–it gives you a safe way to use it.
How Can A Case for Women Help Me?
Maybe you heard about A Case for Women from your parents or someone close to you. We know that can make things complicated. This happened to you, so why does it feel like everyone else is trying to decide what to do about it? You might still really be angry—angry at your parents or at the world for letting this happen. That makes sense. Here’s the thing: no one should be forcing you into anything. Not now, not ever.
This gets to be your choice. If you are ready to talk, our team is here to listen without judgment or pressure. Even if you want all of this to go away and never be spoken about again…maybe this can be the one thing you do for you.
Your parent isn’t trying to make things harder by bringing the idea of a lawsuit up. They know that what happened to you was wrong, and that sometimes the civil legal system is where you go when you have a problem you can’t solve on your own. It can often be the only way to say, “What happened wasn’t okay, and someone needs to be held responsible.”
So, tell us what happened, and let us connect you with legal assistance that is on your side. You don’t have to carry this alone anymore. We’ve helped others through this, and we’re ready when you are.
